Emotional Dysregulation

In this episode, we explore the overwhelming world of emotional dysregulation, a common experience for those with BPD and other mental health conditions. Why do our emotions seem to hit like a tidal wave? Why does a minor moment sometimes feel like the end of the world? Tune in to learn, validate, and take steps toward emotional balance.

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Hey everyone and welcome back to Comorbid Brains. I'm Anna and if you're here, you probably know the mental health journey isn't always smooth sailing. On today's episode, we're diving into a topic that so many of us with BPD or other mental health conditions can relate to emotional dysregulation or, as I like to call it, feeling everything on max volume all the time. If you've ever asked yourself why do I feel things so intensely, or felt like your emotions are running the show, trust me, you're not alone. Let's break down what emotional dysregulation really is, why it happened and some ways we can start to work with it rather than against it. What is emotional dysregulation? Okay, let's start with the basics. Emotional dysregulation is when you experience emotions that are more intense than the situation might seem to call for. Imagine your brain has an emotional volume knob, but instead of staying at a manageable four or five, it jumps straight to 10. For example, a simple disagreement might make you feel overwhelming anger or sadness, or a small success might feel like you've just won an Olympic medal. These swings can be confusing, exhausting and sometimes even scary. Emotional dysregulation is especially common for those of us with borderline personality disorder, bpd, but it can also show up with conditions like ADHD, ptsd, anxiety and depression. Why does emotional dysregulation happen? So why does this happen? Well, it often comes down to how our brains process emotions. For people with BPD, the part of the brain responsible for emotional reactions, the amygdala, tends to be hyperactive. Think of it like a fire alarm that goes off even when there's just a little smoke. At the same time, the part of the brain that helps regulate those emotions, the prefrontal cortex, might not be as effective at calming things down. So when a strong emotion hits, it's like the alarm goes off but no one's around to hit the off button. This can be further amplified by past traumas or learned coping mechanisms. If you grew up in an environment where your emotions weren't validated or where you felt unsafe expressing them, your brain might have developed heightened responses as a survival mechanism. What does emotional dysregulation feel like Now? If you're listening to this, you probably don't need me to tell you what it feels like, but let's validate it anyway, because that's important. Validated anyway, because that's important. Emotional dysregulation can feel like a wave that crashes over you before you even know it's coming, a sense of being out of control, like your emotions are driving the car and you're just along for the ride, exhaustion from the constant ups and downs, like running a marathon every day with no finish line in sight. It can also lead to impulsive behaviors, intense reactions and a lot of self-judgment. And let's be honest, it's not just tough on us. It can strain our relationships and make us feel isolated or misunderstood.

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Managing emotional dysregulation. So how do we start to manage emotional dysregulation? Well, it's not about controlling our emotions. It's about regulating them. Here are a few strategies that can help.

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Mindfulness and grounding Techniques like deep breathing, meditation or even just naming objects around you can help you stay in the present moment when emotions start to surge. Can help you stay in the present moment when emotions start to surge. Distress tolerance skills borrowed from dialectical behavior Therapy, dbt. These skills help you cope with intense emotions without making the situation worse. Techniques like holding an ice cube, splashing cold water on your face or using the stop skill can help interrupt the emotional spiral.

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Emotion Validation Remind yourself that your feelings are valid, even if they're intense. You're not too much. You're just feeling things deeply and that's okay. Therapy and support Working with a therapist, especially one trained in DBT, can provide personalized tools for managing emotional dysregulation. Also, connecting with others who understand can be incredibly healing. Emotional dysregulation can be a wild ride, but remember, you're not broken. Your brain just works a little differently. By learning to understand and manage these intense emotions, you're taking powerful steps toward healing. Thanks for listening to this episode of Comorbid Brains. If you found this helpful, don't forget to subscribe and share it with someone who might need to hear it. No-transcript.